Sunday, February 26, 2006

難答的問題

好朋友,那天晚上你問了我一個很難的問題,我該怎樣回答你呢?

你問我,覺得你男朋友怎樣,他好不好,看你一臉戰戰競競、誠惶誠恐的樣子,我怎麽忍心把心裏的想法直接的告訴你呢?

第一次跟你的好朋友見面,他便遲到,而且到達時並無解釋之意,他平常約你也是這樣的嗎?坐下來便問你旅行的機票訂好了沒有,有沒有他要求的Leg Room Seat,你到底是他秘書還是女朋友?我不介意他抽煙,我只是奇怪他一直沒有參與我們任何的話題,別人不知道,還真以為他是搭枱的。其實他對我熱情與否並不重要,因為你才是那位要他在意的人。

他到達之前,你再三強調他是專業人士、有經濟基礎,是結婚的好人選;你叮囑我不要提及你的情史,因為你怕他在意你的過去;你又問我該怎樣跟他開口商討婚後的家用計劃,你怕他會看不起你;你甚至說,他條件太好了,只怕自己看不牢他.……好朋友,有必要這麽委屈嗎?你還很年輕、漂亮,選擇從來不少,為何要迫自己冒險?你打算以後步步為營的跟他廝守終生?一個男人高大威猛才華橫溢英偉不凡家財萬貫,但是心中沒你,他條件再好與你有何干?

對不起,我沒有坦白直言,只說:「一次見面,看不出甚麽。」其實你從來比我聰明,我所看到的,你怎會不知道,如果你選擇自己騙自己,那我更無話可說了。

好朋友,你也該同意,這是個很難答的問題吧?

8 Comments:

At 1:32 AM, Blogger Helmet Jane said...

"但是心中沒你,他條件再好與你有何干?
"說得好!

不過,到某一天連你朋友覺得連自己都呃唔到自己時,就自然會離開.

 
At 3:43 AM, Blogger choyyee said...

有必要這麽委屈嗎?- good! my point is no need to feeling that inferior lor...

but actually did the guy propose to your friend ? if not then your friend is just thinking too much in considering the household finance after the marriage.

 
At 11:16 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

每一個人都有一條低線,當情況超越低線就係清醒的日子

 
At 9:47 PM, Blogger choyyee said...

有d人底線定得超底ga wo

 
At 9:21 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think your friend can definitely see all his weaknesses as she is the one who cares the most of him in the world. she keeps saying his strengths only to deceive her own self to keeping on “loving” him.

The explanation of asking you to meet him might either be she wants you to tell her the truth or u might be kind enough to lie that he is good. Both are what she wants.

 
At 10:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

這個問題實在令我再三想想究竟甚麼才是最重要呢?應該點揀呢? 近月來剛巧與一個似乎為人不錯的人漸漸加深認識,相處的感覺不錯,的確產生了點點好感。其實我不肯定佢是否有對我有意思,但也不禁暗𥚃想想佢適合與否。跟佢在一起的確幾舒服,so far so ok, 唯一令我擔心的便是學歷和事業甚至年紀的距離會否是個問題。骨子𥚃仍懷有傳統思想,希望男伴比自己成熟兼事業有成,可是又眼見不少成功男士自視過高,只愛自己而不懂珍惜身邊人,豈能付託終身?反之,一個相處得好但客觀條件不夠perfect的人,有上進心,有愛心,講得出也做得到,以心待人,是否更值得考慮呢?為甚麼要勉強自己去接受一個不懂令自己開心的人,為的就是佢的成就?會真正開心幸福嗎?雖然我都未知自己會怎選擇,但我十分清楚知道‘懂得關心愛護尊重我’絕對是首要條件,對嗎?

 
At 9:11 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

If I were you my question to her would be does she love him? If she replies yes without a doubt then there is no need to discuss it further. We all want unconditional love and respect from our spouses but relationship is never a fair game....if she loves him that much and would still be happy to be with him even he doesn't love her as much...go for it.

 
At 4:53 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

愛情好多時都係盲目既,有幾多個人真的可以很理智地去談戀愛呢!

 

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